Today I’m starting a new feature series here on my blog. I’ve got so many post ideas that end up being so extremely long that I’m trying very hard to break them into smaller, more digestible bites. This one came out of a discussion I had earlier this month with my newest couple (Diana + Julian). Julian was skeptical that they really needed a coordinator to help with their wedding day preparation, and it got me thinking about all the different “hats” I wear in my function as planner (or designer or coordinator, but for this particular series I’ll be using the term “planner” to encompass all parts of the design, planning, and coordination process).
There are a lot.
So I decided to write them out. Give a little explanation. To give you some insight into just what your wedding planner does, on and before your wedding day. You might just be surprised.
The first of my functions? Editor.
The Wedding Planner as Editor
Do you remember playing as a kid? Imagination abounded, you could be and do anything you wanted. Possibilities were endless. One day you had your heart set on being a rock star when you grew up. The next it was a doctor. The next an astronaut, or a paleontologist, or a baker who made cakes 100 layers high. Do you remember that feeling? That there were so many amazing opportunities for you?
That’s kind of how it feels when you’re first planning a wedding.
Actually, I know that it’s not the case for everyone (some people flat out hate wedding planning, and that’s where another of my roles as planner comes in, but we’ll get to that in a future post). But for so many of my couples, their wedding is this fantastic opportunity to do whatever they want!!!! Bubbles, rice, confetti, streamers, sparklers… The possibilities are astounding. And those are just for the end of the ceremony!
Most wedding planning journeys take a lot of twists and turns. You might choose a theme but be completely stuck on colors, or decide on one look and then suddenly realize it’s wrong for you. One of my former clients looked into three separate “feels” for her day. Sometimes remnants of one theme stick around after that theme is long gone. Sometimes there are just too many ideas to decide. Sometimes there isn’t much clarity at all.
In my role as wedding planner, I help you to pare down all those ideas and unify all those themes. Part of my job in the planner/designer capacity is to make sure that your ideas all tie together on your wedding day. I try to look at your overall plans and tweak them so that they make sense.
For example, when designing the details for Emily + Jeremy’s Wedding, we knew that the very!bright! color of the pool house wasn’t going to tie in with her wedding day style. So we created a showpiece using Chinese lanterns, and brought them into the other spaces in the wedding.
For The McAwesome Wedding, Neva came to me with a few ideas – elephants! birdcages! The Party! lanterns! peacock feathers! daisies! – and her wedding invitation (which featured a round cutout piece of patterned rice paper) and we sketched out a basic plan for her table runners and reception decor, bringing them all together.
For E+D’s Wedding, I remember when the bride first sent me the link to her inspiration photos in Google Docs. There were over 40 different photographs there! Together, we went through, prioritizing, discussing options, working to unify her disparate ideas. In the end, we pared things down to just what was really important to her, carried the bird theme loosely throughout the day, and I threw in a couple of fun surprises.
Your planner will ideally be able to help you create an overall vision for the day, cut out the pieces that simply don’t fit, and put a pretty little bow on top. Because your planner has seen how all the elements of a wedding interact with each other on many occasions, she can tell you what will make the greatest impact or how best to make all your ideas work in concert. But only if you share your vision with her and listen to her input – otherwise, she’s got nothing but a blank page!