Forget for a minute that vintage-inspired weddings are “in.” Forget that sweet tables are the hot thing, or that jewel tones are “so last year.” What does your honoree like? If you’re the bride and groom planning a wedding, what is your style?
I got married in 2008. This was the very beginning of the mismatched table decor trend. In fact, the first magazine article I saw mentioning putting flowers in various china vessels was published a month or two before my wedding in Martha Stewart Weddings. But my husband and I – both avid swap meet goers, both in love with vintage looks, both more at home with mismatched and homespun than slick and modern (our house is a great example – we’ve furnished almost the entire thing secondhand) – decided early on in our planning process that we’d enjoy picking out vintage china pieces to fill with mismatched flowers and decorate our tables. This theme – a whimsical vintage garden – was born when we first visited our venue (a vintage-themed restaurant) and was the perfect mixture of our taste with distinct, inexpensive details.
If you are more couture than campagne, a mismatched garden look is probably a mismatch for you. Likewise, if I’m planning a birthday party for a 4-year-old-girl who is obsessed with monster trucks, I probably won’t be dressing her up as a princess (unless she’d like a princess-at-a-monster-truck-rally party, in which case I’m all for it!). Trends are trends – but just as in fashion, if a trend doesn’t fit you, don’t wear it. Skinny jeans or cutoffs may be in vogue, but I look like a tree stump in them – so I consistently choose long bootcuts. Don’t reach for the “in” thing if it’s just not you.
Likewise, if a trend does happen to be you, don’t be afraid to embrace it. You may remember my peacock bridal shower invitations. What I didn’t say in the original post was that my friend, for whom I’m throwing the shower, originally wanted peacock feathers to be featured at her wedding. But when she realized that they were a hot wedding trend, she decided against them. She didn’t want to follow the crowd. I understand and embrace the creative spirit – but no two parties are identical, even with the exact same printed materials. Just because something has been done a hundred times doesn’t mean it’s not worth doing again – if the theme is something you love.
Photo from my website.