As the first in my ideas series, I want to help you to explore the first important question I ask before coming up with a theme for any event:
What kind of event am I having?
This might be obvious. I’m hosting a bridal shower or a birthday party, or a wedding. But there is a huge difference between the scope of, say, the birthday host that pays Christina Aguilera a million dollars to sing for an hour and the birthday host that asks all their friends to pitch in a potluck meal. Both parties can be spectacular – one of the most fun weddings I have ever been to had a potluck dinner (which is next to impossible to pull off but was flawless) and in total cost less than most gowns featured on Say Yes to the Dress. But until you really think about the kind of event you’re having you can’t really move forward.
I’ll admit this is overall a relatively simple question. But if you’ve ever been the Maid of Honor for a wedding, you might remember a moment of panic when you realized that all the slightly racy shower games were going to be played to an audience including the groom’s grandmother. Consider the type of event – not just “wedding” but “intimate family wedding” or “minimalistic urban wedding”, and not just “bridal shower” but “relaxed family bridal shower” or “silly risque bridal shower with friends” – you want to have before everything else.
Once you figure out what kind of party you are going to be having, you can start considering the answers to my other questions.